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Date Conversation
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What do you talk about on
a date? Is it okay to just listen and nod attentively or are
you expected to take an active part in the conversation?
Do you get nervous at the
thought of going out with someone new? When you think of going
out on a date, is it like 'been there done that' or do you think of
ways to wow your
potential new love? For those of you who are super confident,
you can stop reading here, but for the rest of us (who could use a
little help), following are some basic guidelines to follow to help
you make great date conversation!
Listen to what the other person is saying.
Don't pretend, nod without listening or zone out - pay
attention to your date is saying to you! If you decide to keep
seeing him or her, she'll be grateful that you remember that her
grandmother raised her or that his mother makes the best apple pie
in the world.
Pick up on conversational cues.
Most people are dying to talk about themselves, and
you are the perfect listening audience! If your date casually
mentions that he used to play football in college, ask him about it.
Or if she mentions that she used to be the 'bomb' back in the day,
draw her out in conversation. You could be just the friendly
ear he or she needs to remember those old 'glory' days.
Have something to say.
Think about what you would like to talk about.
Practice some things in your mind. And please don't give in to
the TMI (Too Much Information) Syndrome. You may have started
off talking about your cat, but, believe me, he does not want to
hear about the interesting places Fluffy deposits her little
hairballs! And, guys, please don't tell her all about your last
girlfriend - she is gone for a reason, don't resurrect her for your
new date's benefit.
Don't talk about sex on the first date.
Yes, I know we all break this rule sometimes, but
you're better off leaving sex out of this conversational rotation.
Why? Because once you go there, it's hard to get back to
regular conversation.
And where does talk about sex usually lead? To more talk about
sex and deeper revelations until all that's left is to try it out!
So, leave it alone until date four or five and, for tonight, tell him or her
all about the last movie you saw instead.
End on a positive note.
If you mistakenly mentioned your Aunt Hortilda and
got a bit carried away describing her obsessive toe nail clipping,
redeem yourself by changing the conversation as soon as possible!
Laugh at yourself for mentioning such a thing, talk about something
positive and leave the date on a positive note. Don't overstay
your welcome, don't end the conversation by dogging out your boss or
your new sister-in-law and definitely don't share any deep personal
revelations (like the fact that you were molested at age 2) on the
first date. You can and definitely should talk about those
things with someone you are seriously involved with, but that takes
time. Don't let that be the last thing
your date remembers about you at the end of the evening.
So date and have fun!
Enjoy yourself, keep it lighthearted and make sure you keep the
conversational ball rolling. If you have any suggestions about
dating or want to share your dating horror story, Contact Us and
tell us all about it!
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